A few weeks after my mum passed away, we had a memorial service for her. My cousin Ramani Samarasundera gave this message and tribute at her service.
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My mind goes to the words of that endearing
song … “how do you thank someone who had
taken you from crayons to perfume… it isn’t easy but I’ll try”…... I think for
a lot of us nieces and nephews Manel anty did just that and so much more… she
not only was there to possibly change our nappies and play house with us and
draw out favourite pictures with us… but she was also there when we grew up, to
check out our wardrobes, go shopping with us, choose our wedding sarees..and
see us make our own homes and bring up our own families.
With apologies to all the other aunts
gathered here today who would also I am sure agree wholeheartedly…. Manel anty
was undoubtedly the favorite aunt.
Her fame and followership had at its heart
what I’d like to term the 4F’s.. FOOD, FUN, FRIENDSHIP and FELLOWSHIP. A party at Manel anty’s was not to be missed.
Whilst as children we probably were a bit in awe of the bigwigs that came for
someone of the bigger do’s the most loved parties were when the family came
together. I think many of us cousins and our spouses were cajoled into the ABCs
of the wines and cocktail thanks to Leonard mama and my father. Cotton fields
belting out on the piano keys by manel anty accompanied by the voices of my
uncles toned to perfection with the help of some friendly spirits was only to be followed by “there’s a hole in
the bucket dear Liza” not forgetting “Dilhani duwani”.. these were familiar
sounds that were heard from the then no 30.
I’ve learnt some life lessons from this
favourite aunt of mine and some stories are in order this evening to celebrate
who she was and is and will be to all of us.
One of my earliest recollections was as a little girl how I was found
out having “sneaked out ” some gummy bears from the akkis… I think I had hidden
it under the mattress at their home. I remember
being severely reprimanded and
told not to do such a thing ever again ….and she assured me that my mother will
not be told about the incident. Looking back I believe it was foundational
lesson in building honesty and integrity in the choices of my life.
The next stark memory I have is when one of
my cousins in her eagerness to help, broke the Kenwood mixer bowl which was at
the time a prized possession in any home. What I remember is that I didn’t hear
blame being heaped on the guilt and remorse of an eager teenager whose
intention had been to help. There was empathy for the pain. It still remains a
very strong image in my heart and mind and one that I often draw upon both at
work and at home – to understand the intentions of others in a given situation before
jumping to conclusions and judgment.
Much has been said about Manel anty and her
generosity… but I think for me the epitome of that love and generosity is that
she “let go” of her 2 girls. I remember reading a verse in a
birthday card many
years back which talked about giving love wings… and it talked about “letting
go” “giving wings” to a bird who can fly away vs. keeping a bird in a cage with
no choice but to stay and love you. The bird who was given the freedom to fly the
story related will always come back because of the love at home. She “let go”
of having them around, she “let go” of them living within the frameworks she
knew and had been brought up to believe in … she let go of seeing them take on
their own worlds , she “let go” of seeing them mark the successes in their own
lives….
I believe she was able to “let go” because
she “let God” … she had peace in letting go as she trusted her Lord and Saviour
with what was most precious to her. She was able to do that because she trusted
and rested in the love of her God… because she was one with the father. She
“let her God” take care of them, their needs and also of her needs. And as she
“let go” and “let God” she “got more” … got more love, more care, more
experiences, more laughter, more memories, more friends from not only the 2 she
“let go” but also many more, including us gathered here. Now for me that is a challenge, a challenge I am learning each day… how
to love but not stifle….how to “let go” and “let God”
And as we bring to a close this evening in
which we shared so many precious memories and recounted many stories of a love
so dear, a smile so warm and a memory so endearing I will leave you with some
thoughts from God’s word on “letting go and letting God”
We heard read for us today from St. Mathews
Gospel how Jesus spoke to the people of the day challenging them NOT TO WORRY….
Matthew 6: 25-34
Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you
will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than
food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they
do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds
them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a
single hour to your life?So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
It is hard isn’t it to not worry?? It is almost as we have been wired to worry… we fail to realize that there is absolutely nothing we accomplish by expending our time energy and peace of mind by worrying about an outcome of a situation that WE CANNOT CHANGE…
C.S. Lewis writes...remember that one is given the strength to bare the things that happen to one but not the 101 things that might happen.
Jesus speaks to us as he did many years ago an anxious young woman ….‘Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Luke 10:38-42
but my friends you and I as Christians are not walking this road alone.
We have a risen living God.
We have a God who has promised never to leave us alone...
We have a God and Shepherd who walks with us through the shadow of the valley of death.
He knows and he is in control. Shouldn’t that be sufficient for us?
1.
We think
we’ll find a solution
2.
We worry
because we don’t want to overlook anything
3.
We think
that by thinking a little longer we will figure it all out
4.
We don’t
want to be surprised and so we worry
5.
Some of
us worry because we don’t want to be held responsible or accountable
Friends we are anxious for far too many things…
ALL that was needed was “one thing”, and that one thing it to know and love
Jesus as our Saviour and Lord.
In 2
Choriniclers 20: 17 we read: But you will not even need to fight. Take
your positions; then stand still and watch the LORD’s victory. He is with you,
O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out there
tomorrow, for the LORD is with you!"
What God
tells Jehoshaphat in this passage and what he would remind us of today is this:
"The battle is not yours; it's mine. You don’t have to fight in it."
In other
words, your problems are God’s problems. “Let go” and “LET GOD”.
God tells
Jehoshaphat, "Take your positions and stand firm." What does it mean
to stand firm? It means to have a mental attitude of quiet confidence, it means
we are to “Be Still and know that He is God”.
We can
stand firm on two things:
• The character of God. He's
faithful. He does not bring us this far just to let us down.
• The truth of his Word. God's Word
is faithful. You can count on the promises found in the Bible.
Manel anty knew even in the darkest days of
her life as she sat on a chair as she lay on her pillow, as she pondered her predicament
… she knew that the Lord Jesus was her Lord and God.
This evening, lets make a fresh commitment
to strengthen the love, the relationship and trust we have with our creator
God, our Savior and Redeemer.
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